Divorce, unfortunately, is still all too common in our culture. Many couples start off their lives together with a strong partnership built on love and respect, only to discover a few years down the road that they are simply incompatible. For these couples, there are many factors that contribute to the dissolving of this partnership, and divorce can be a confusing time full of anger and blame. Here are some of the most common factors in divorce, and the approach you can take to salvage your relationship from the loss of the romance.
Factors of Divorce: Infidelity
Infidelity is the number one reason why people seek divorce. It represents a basic betrayal of trust and a catastrophic failure in a relationship. There are a number of signs that infidelity may be on the horizon or may have already happened, and too many couples dont want to see the warning until its too late. If you are noticing a sudden interest in your spouses appearance, emotional detachment or unexplained charges on your bank or credit accounts, there may be troubles. Communication can stop this problem before it goes too far.
Factors of Divorce: Finances
Another major cause for divorce is financial difficulty. Many couples are simply unprepared for the difficulties of managing joint finances, and one or both can become embittered and angry at the others spending or lack of fiscal responsibility. The stress and resentment can build until divorce seems the only option. There are ways that these issues can be addressed. A financial counselor can go a long way, but there has to be buy-in by both partners.
Factors of Divorce: Job Stress
Stress at work is among the biggest factors in divorce. It can create anger, bottled-up emotions and can take away valuable time that couples need to bond and strengthen their partnership and love. Whether its due to odd working hours, demanding career responsibilities or other factors, job stress can lead to losing touch and, eventually, a marital split. Managing these stresses and making time for each other is vital to a healthy marriage.
Factors of Divorce: Emotional Problems
Mental and emotional problems such as depression or anxiety can, especially if not properly diagnosed and treated, lead to strain in the partnership and eventual divorce. Those with emotional problems, which can be as many as 20 percent of the population, do not seek help or treatment, and their mood problems makes them grow distant from those around them, driving a wedge in important relationships that should be an anchor for them. Getting treatment can sometimes save a marriage.
Factors of Divorce: Substance Abuse and Addiction
When a spouse begins abusing drugs or alcohol or develops addictions to the Internet, gambling, pornography or other activities, these compulsions can become all-encompassing and can irrevocably damage a marriage. Much as with emotional problems, getting to the root of the problem and seeking treatment can be all important.
When a marriage falls apart but the two partners want to retain control over their lives and salvage a relationship, divorce mediation can be the answer. If you are facing any of these factors in divorce, want to avoid bitter court battles and try to build a friendship from a failed romance, read about how mediation can help and contact us for a consultation today.
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