From all of us here at Jones Divorce and Family Law, we’d like to wish you a happy new year this holiday season! We truly do appreciate you for choosing us and we are excited about the opportunity to continue providing you with exceptional service going into 2022.
We are a Calgary-based business, and as such, we take immense pride and satisfaction in being able to serve the wonderful families of southern Alberta.
With the holidays fast approaching, it’s a time of both excitement and anticipation. However, it can also be a time for stress and anxiety if you’re not properly prepared.
For this reason, we have compiled a list of 4 mindfulness tips to help you ease your tensions this holiday season.
1. Welcome Imperfection
For many of us, we want the holidays to be perfect. The perfect dinner with the perfect presents and perfect celebration, the list goes on. However, this can become a stress-inducing nightmare when nothing goes as planned.
The superior approach is to plan as best you can, but be okay with things changing, events occurring, and people not living up to your expectations. This is a much healthier state of mind — that once adopted — will produce far better new years celebrations compared to you holding a kung fu grip onto your idea of the “perfect holiday.”
2. Remember What Truly Matters
Unruly consumers, extensive shopping lines, gridlock traffic, etc. These along with many other irritating factors can almost suck all the joy out of the holidays. Whenever you feel run down from the craziness that often accompanies this time of year, remind yourself of a few things:
- Nothing is nearly as bad as your mind makes it out to be: Irritated by an arrogant Christmas shopper who stole your parking spot? Remember that it’s just a parking spot and that you’ll find a new one in a matter of minutes. It’s not a big deal.
- Take stock of what you have to be grateful for: When your frustration is peaking due to the long shopping line that seems to be moving at a snail’s pace, think of all your friends and family who will be exhilarated by the gifts you are getting them, and be grateful you have such people in your life.
- You’re the one in control: Regardless of what annoyances happen as you traverse the holiday season, remember that you are ultimately the one who decides what circumstances mean. Good or bad is a matter of perspective.
3. React With Goodwill
The pressures of the holidays can sometimes bring stress to many people’s lives. And this can make them act unfavourably, which in turn, brings stress to your life. However, the good thing is you can decide to react to them positively. Here are a few things to bare in mind that will help you respond better in such circumstances:
- It’s not about you: Remember that people won’t say or do anything that isn’t a reflection of how they feel about their lives and themselves. With this simple truth in mind, the next time someone is acting up and being a cretin, remember that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
- Reach out: Many people are alone during the holidays, and for them, this time of the year is especially painful. Try to reach out to those who may be on their own, it will make a world of difference.
- Remember to breathe: If at any time, tensions rise with somebody, don’t let it boil over. Breathe; slowly, deeply, and center yourself before you react based on your emotions in the moment.
4. Reevaluate Your Resolutions
Look at your resolutions for 2022 and decide if they are appropriate. Many times, we set unrealistic goals and then beat ourselves up when we fail to follow through. Here’s what you can do to prevent that:
- Baby steps: If you want to write a book, for example, then break that down into tiny steps that you can easily implement each day. Like writing 100 words daily. Anybody can do that. This makes success easy because all you have to do is commit to that simple action.
- Treat yourself properly: If you failed to accomplish your goals from last year, don’t beat yourself up over it. That won’t do anything to help. Instead, try to recognize what caused you to fall short, come up with ideas to rectify the problem, write them all down, and then do better this year. The past is the past, take the lessons learned from those failures and continue moving forward with a clean slate in the new year.