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Creating A Parenting Plan? What You Need To Know

Creating a Parenting Plan? What You Need to Know

Parenting plans are an important part of a comprehensive settlement agreement. Parents are strongly encouraged to come to a parenting plan agreement that is specific and far-reaching. This is advisable even when parents are amicable, as they may not always see eye-to-eye on every issue.

In order to help you create an effective parenting plan, weve composed an outline of the main developmental stages that children experience from birth to the late teenage years. Remember, when creating your parenting plan, its important to prioritize the best interest of the children and not the wishes of the parents.

Infants and Toddlers: Birth to 5 years

The most important factor for young children is consistency. They need regular sleep, eating and play schedules to feel safe. Its important parents create a plan that takes into account a regular routine. At 6 months, babies begin to feel uneasy around strangers and can experience anxiety at pass offs if theyre not bonded with each parent. Young children require frequent interaction with both parents to develop this bond. Parents should be amicable during transfers and support the childs relationship with the other parent – as young children can sense tension and can become sensitive during exchange times. It may help to provide the child with something familiar such as a toy or blanket, while moving from home to home.

man playing guitar to baby
It’s essential both parents bond with their baby. (Photo credit: Unsplash/Gui Vicente)

Children: 6 to 12 years

At this time, children are beginning to develop their own schedule preferences. They may want to spend longer periods of time with a certain caregiver and have fewer exchanges. Children will also begin to feel more comfortable with spending time away from their caregivers in preference of spending time with their friends. Parents should allow children to explore their independence.

boy looking out at forest
Children need to know their parents are there for them. (Photo credit: Unsplash/Annie Spratt)

During these years, children will naturally start to feel disconnected from their caregivers and potentially blame them for the breakup of the family. Its important that during this stage, parents ensure theyre able to spend quality time with their children outside of other obligations. Children should be given a safe platform to express their interest in the parenting plan, but know that their parents are responsible for making the final decision.

Teens: 13 to 18 years

Entering the teenage years is a major transitional period for any child, as they begin to explore more adult behaviours and rely less on their families for nurture and support. As a result, children at this age may resent a strict parenting plan and want more input into the time they spend with each parent. Teens begin to take on more responsibilities including: jobs, school work, socializing and extracurricular activities, as they explore their transition into adulthood. Its important that parents discuss their childrens changing schedules to avoid conflict or negative feelings from one another or the child.

teenage girl on computer
Teens long for greater autonomy from their parents. (Photo credit: Unsplash/Steinar La Engeland)

Where to Begin?

Sometimes separated parents are able to reach a parenting plan agreement directly, but often a little assistance is required. A parenting plan can be achieved through mediation, settlement meeting, issuing a parenting plan proposal, negotiation, parenting coordination or collaborative law.

If you need help with your parenting plan, our team of Calgary based family lawyers are committed to helping clients achieve the best possible results. Connect with us to set up an initial consultation.